Conflitto di coppia, reazioni amplificate e determinazioni interne cronicizzate

Considering that it is ingenuous to imagine eliminating anger, fury and aggressive behav- ior, which are in any case important components of hereditary repertoire of the human- kind, in managing couple’s conflicts it is preferable to focus on accentuations and amplifi- cations and intervene to restore congruence. Borrowing the model of the life script from Transactional Analysis, this paper explores the relationships between over-sized reactions and internalized dispositions. The working hypothesis is that specific determinations originally taken to deal with stressful and traumatizing situations, once they internalized and became chronic, can influence the decoding of reality, for example by altering an/or amplifying the sensation of threat, as well as intensifying consequent defensive plans. In essence, numerous exaggerations and incongruities arebased on particular interpretations of the partner’s messages, which are wrongly amplified and/or distorted because they are deciphered as pressing invitations to implement orders and/or internal prescriptions. Keywords: conflict, couple, aggressive behavior, overreactions, fear and anger.